Many articles written about this topic, in my opinion, use too much humor to bring its point across. Viewing pornographic material too regularly warps your mind and real world expectation of women, with so many graphic and novel situations(most of which will never happen on reality) just a click away; the bar both inside and outside the bedroom has been moved higher than ever before. Have you ever judged a women too harshly based on her outward appearance? "Oh, her breasts are too small." or "I prefer my women with a big, round butt.", these are common enough in the men that don't regularly view pornography, everybody has certain things that they like; this is completely normal. The problem comes when you're viewing pornography multiple times a day for an extended amount of time (while masturbating or not) and instead of going over to talk to that cute girl (by realistic standards, not the pornstar XXL everything body), you instead become passive and make excuses as to why she doesn't suit your (now) non superimposable tastes.
The mind begins to objectify women; they stop being people with personalities, dreams, ambitions, backgrounds, struggles, hopes and dreams. They simply become pieces of meat. While this is a very harsh thing to say, that is the truth of the matter. Your mind becomes accustomed to whatever you constantly expose it to; thus if you regularly expose it to lewd material that rewards you(by orgasm) for watching women being treated this way, it eventually learns that this is the way things are meant to be. A relationship in itself is meant to be built on love, trust and mutual respect. Pornography is anything but that: endless numbers of women are photographed and recorded doing the most sexually deviant things imaginable as well appearing to be grateful for these things being done to them. There is a growing number of men who expect to do these things to the women they're involved with in the early stages of the relationship, perhaps after the first few dates. This is should shock you for the sole reason that it just isn't right! Learning the other person's likes and dislikes are part of a healthy sexual relationship but the disconnect comes in when people start to force their own (perhaps non mainstream sexual preferences) onto their partners with no regard to how the other person feels.
If you're visiting these sites at work or at school, you should begin to notice that you may make small and sometimes frequent mistakes because it takes your focus away. Underestimating the power of sex and all its branches(image, video, voice) is a recipe for disaster for the man with a faltering constitution. If you're lucky enough to have children one day, think about how you would feel if your daughter were treated like the women in those videos. Is it worth giving your mind to lust when you know what effect it is having on you?
Ultimately, the choice is up to you. The golden rule for anything is that everything should be done in moderation but once you feel yourself crossing a line and going in search for more 'extreme' material; examine yourself. Recognize that your tastes are being warped but that you still hold the power to change yourself back through abstinence from pornography.
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